Tips on Raising Confident Children

Parents need to be  intentional in order to set their children up for success as confident kids are likely to be successful adults.A child can become self assured when they learn and accomplish given task.Confident children are able to make friends easily and can collaborate in groups and teams effectively to achieve a goal. Also they live happy,goal getting and fulfilling lives because they believe in themselves and are able to face new challenges  without fear.

A great way of doing this is to encourage and praise them.For instance,when your child does his/her school homework well or helps out with the house chores

,you can say,"Good girl/boy, you did it very well,great job".By doing this you are appreciating both the effort and the accomplishment of the task thus helping the child to feel good about themselves and the world around them.

Another way is to teach them to learn from mistakes or failures. They should be taught that failures are not bad in themselves but a chance to know what was not done that resulted to it. For example,a failure in a subject in school,games or sporting activity creates a situation where you can help the child to identify the reasons for the failure, and then boost his/her self esteem. You can say ,if it is a low maths score"this is why you scored less in maths...if you do this and practice more,i bet you will have better grades".This will certainly improve confidence as the child will be able to address challenges by himself by identifying why the failure occured and assess his attitude and technique towards it. As a result your child is able to solve problems.

Give them age appropriate task or responsibilities. You can give them specific house hold chores to do everyday such as washing the dishes, sweeping the floor,washing daddy's car,helping out with cooking,taking out the waste bin,etc this will make them feel they are important and can contribute to the general well being of the family of which they are part of.Since these task are regular the children become dependable and conscientous thus building self confidence.

Teach them to value, appreciate and love themselves and take advantage of their strengths.Tell them they are beautiful, handsome, intelligent, smart, loved, that they have great or amazing sport or football skills,cooking skills,debating skills etc. When they come to you and say i do not like my eyes they are too large,you should say"you have beautiful big doey eyes which are unique".In addition,teach them great morals such as hard work pays,never do something you do not believe in,never give up,try try try again,you can be whatsoever you want to be,you get out of life what you are willing to put into it, etc.

Strive to be a good role model to your kids by been kind and considerate to others.They will copy such behaviour and get praised for it thus boosting their self esteem.Also, spend quality time with your kids doing fun activities together such as playing a game,reading a book,going to the movies etc this will make them feel valuable.

Lastly,you can also ask their opinions or suggestions about things.It could be as little as what they would like the family to have for dinner and other issues.By so doing,they feel valued and respected with the belief that they can impact the world.