Bad Parenting Signs, Effects and How to Change it

Parenting is a huge task; the parents of a child hold the key to what will become of that child tomorrow. A great percentage of the character traits of the child are learnt from the parents. The most confusing thing is that some parents do not even know if they are good or bad parents. Checkout these pointers to bad parenting.The signs, effects and ways to change them and make amends.   

• Harshness 

Some people are just harsh by their actions, some also have the tendency of transferring aggression. Kids won’t do well if their parents are harsh to them; learn not to be over temperamental towards your kids. 

• Abuse

It is bad parenting if you abuse your children, either physically or verbally, desist from it as a parent. It is a sure sign of bad parenting. 

• Comparing

Every child is unique, you don’t need to compare your child with another child, explore the innate abilities of your child and develop them. 

• Neglect

Neglect is another sure sign of bad parenting, whatever the situation is, do not neglect your children. 

• Showing wrong example

It is bad parenting if you perform bad habits like: smoking, drinking etc. in the presence of your kids.

Bad parenting has pushed many kids to the ugly side of life, some of adverse effects of bad parenting include:

• Low self esteem

Low self esteem is one of them, kids that grow under abusive parents and parents who compare them with other kids tend to have low self esteem.

• Depression and anxiety

Bad parenting has resulted into depression and anxiety amongst many kids. If you are overbearing on the child as a parent, your child will become very depressed overtime.

• Drugs and Crime

Bad parenting can turn your kids into criminals and drug addicts; your kids may tend to find a pathway in life for themselves, and it definitely will be the wrong way. Don’t smoke or drink in the presence of your children.

• Fear

Children that are always abused live in fear; they can’t tell what will be next. Do not abuse your children

If you are caught in the web of bad parenting, you can try to change your style or approach towards your children.

• Learn parenting styles from other parents

• Be free to relate your challenges and experience with your trusted friends

• Take advice from other parents or neigbours

• Open discussions with your kids

• Show more love and attention to your children

• Learn to apologize to them if you are wrong

Bonne Chance!!

Indeed there is no one that can boast of being a perfect parent, but we can identify traits of bad parenting. If you notice any of the adverse effects of bad parenting mentioned above, do not hesitate to seek advice and make amends.