Seven Tips on Bonding with Step Children

Having step children can be challenging and problematic to a relationship especially if bonding or having a smooth relationship with them is tough.And it may take months,years for bonding /building of trust to emerge but is worth it at the end.You just have to understand that it is a process.You should be patient by knowing that it is possible to have good relationship with

your step children

1. Do activities together

One fun way to bond with step children is to create avenues that will enable you and them to do activities together. It is a quick way to build a relationship, trust and understanding amongst yourselves. 

2. Define your role with them

Your role with them has to be defined, let all parties know their limits. Do not step into the position of biological parents in order not to get hurt. 

3. Be part of their lives

The fact can’t be denied that you are their parent in some way; so be part of their lives. Celebrate their success with them, identify their challenges and try to proffer solution etc. 

4. Create friendship

Friendship kills all animosity, create friendship with your step children; it is one step towards bonding with them.

5. Do not be their chaperon 

By all means, do not be their chaperon, do not take the role of their biological parents, do not be the one to discipline them, you can give useful advice, but leave discipline for their biological parents. 

6. Don’t be vindictive

It is very common for step parents to be vindictive; this is wrong. Loving your step children is one step to bonding with them. 

7. Treat them like you treat your kids

In order to create a bond with your step children, do not have favorites, treat them the same way you treat your children. 

Step children can even take the responsibilities of biological children when there is challenge, but only if you have treated them well by bonding with them. No one determines events, adopt these fun steps and create a perfect bond with your step children. 

Bonne Chance!!